Are you working for the wrong reason?

Recently a friend of mine just brought a car after saving and scrimping for countless months. After placing an initial deposit, he still needs to service a 10 year loan for it. His case is just a fraction of the numerous people out there working hard for their own desires.

Its makes me wonder whether sometimes people  are working hard for the wrong reason. They work for 12 to 16 hours, 7 days a week. And spent their hard-earned money to fulfill their own desires. Women are willing to spent their month worth of salary on a LV bag. Guys scrimp on their meals and think of alternate routes to avoid ERP charges in order to pay their monthly car installments.  Do they really own their cars/bags or its the other way around?

One way I can guess is that you find yourself unable to stop working no matter how much hated your job but had to tolerate all the bullshit because you need  the income to pay for your monthly installments. Perhaps its time to do something about it before your desires owns you.

Defining Your Own Trading Plan and Philosophy

In my opinion. The first step to become a successful trader is to create your own trading plan and philosophy. That includes being the type of trader you are, the market you are targeting and the philosophy of your trading plan.   and then, a so-called ‘guru’ will write a book or start a seminar saying that his trading plan will help you profit from the market. But bear in mind that it is His trading plan and not yours. His mindset and values will most likely differ from yours and even if it works for you. It may not last for long particularly if you do not have the necessary knowledge to adjust your game plan when the market changes which it always do.

My trading philosophy is similar to a person who wants to learn to play basketball. Imagine what will you do if you want to learn a new sports like skiing or diving? You will first read up some books or attend some courses to learn more about the sports before getting hands-on. In the aspects of basketball, you will have to learn the basics like passing and dribbling.

But mastering the basics doesn’t guaranteed success unless you play a pick up game with someone else. This is the part whereby most people failed and couldn’t pick themselves up in the game of trading because they lost too much and recovering will took forever. The best players in the game will learn to survive every game.

Survival is the key word, and that is my trading philosophy. Take a scenario of two athletics with same experience and attributes going through the NBA season of 82 games. Athletic A gets injured a couple of times and sat out for 20 games whereas Athletic B only sat out for only 2 games due to minor sprain. At the end of the season, Athletic B gets higher payout and becomes more experience because of  the 80 games he played.

Being a basketball fanatic, I intend to define my trading philosophy with the same values I had towards the game basketball. Which is to survive every game and gained the lesson learnt from it and move on the next.

Back on Track at last

Today is the day I’ve made a decision… A decision that has cost me my money and effort for the past 6 months in exchange for a shot to turn my dream into a reality. Actually I should be doing this a long long time ago… Not until when my best buddy made a remark that hit me from within.

” You did not even set foot to go after your dream is because you are afraid of failure!”. That was the correct sentence that describe my feeling for the past year. I was afraid of failure. So I tried all means and ways to build a ’safety net’ for myself in case I have something to fall back on if I failed to turn my dream into reality. But as time goes on, I felt that there was something wrong with me. I realised that if I was going in the wrong direction. I became too focused on building my ‘Plan B’ that it will take years for me to start working on my Plan A which is my dream.

I felt disoriented and a sense of lost. Thats when I understand that I am so afraid of failure that I subconciously forgo my dream and worked on something more realistic and ’stable’. But after weighting the pros and cons of it and also the worst case scenario, I decided to drop some of my plans for safety and back on track to acheived my dream.

22nd Dec 2008… A fresh start in my career

Just spent the last 2 weeks focusing on my driving lessons and preparing myself for my new job tomorrow at a Japan MNC as a sales executive. For the 1st time during my 2 years working in the sales line have I ever felt so proud of my job. Simply because its a MNC and I believed that I will learn and be trained into a professional sales representative that I’ve always believed that I can be.

Since young, I’ve always believed that I’m gonna be someone outstanding and special, yet I spent the last 2 years struggling in my career. I’ve always thought that everytime when I joined a new company as sales, the company will be willing to train and teach me to be a better salesperson which in turn, increase sales for them. But each time I was disappointed with all the selfishness of the top salesperson and company politics which dampens my spirit.

But fortunately, I was able to survived all this nonsense and move on. With the benefits and training programs that awaits me in my new company, I could see my future for the 1st time in over these past 2 years. But of course, I don’t know how true would that be until I spent a few months on the job and see for myself. So wish me good luck guys. =)

Anger will only make you lose yourself.

Recently I’ve did something that cause me to fall out  with my friend. On a personal view, I don’t think that my actions have caused a great damage to him and of cause to him, he think otherwise. I apologise to him, knowing that he is really pissed off at me as I have never seen him so angry before.

On my part, I’m upset of the way he talked to me on the phone and he used such harsh words on me just because other people twisted my words and talked to him with that. I felt unjustified and disappointed that my friend would treat me that way given that they knew the kind of person I am. If I were to cause him any harm, I have no need to wait till now.

Regardless of whether this friend of mine is reading my blog, I have an advice to all of you. anger will only hurt your loved ones around you and eventually lose yourself. At the very least, learn to forgive others and you will find that you will be a happier person.

I’m not asking for any form of forgiveness from my friend because I’ve already made the most important forgiveness of all. I’ve forgave myself, I’ve move on with my life. Even If through this event I may lose this friend of mine, its not something that i can control if he choose not to forgive my mistakes even after my apology. I would rather forgive myself and move on with my life…

Remember that you always have choices. You can choose to be happy or you choose to be sad. If my friends knew me well they would knew what I’ve chosen…

Basketball is my Life, my Blood and my Soul

If there is anyone who ask me, what is the one thing that keeps me going in terms of mentally or physically, I would replied basketball without pausing for a second. In fact, basketball saved my life.

When I was in my early teens, I looked like nerdy guy except the fact that I’m not as smart as one. The only physical advantage that I seem to have are my size and height. So I started playing basketball as a hobby and also as a mean to make more friends.

But the more I played, the more deeply in love I am with it. So i spent most of my time in the court, practising to get better day by day. I can still remember the time that I spent the morning making 300 jump shots everyday during school vacation. And hearing the comments from my classmates who noticed my improvement just makes me wanna work harder.

Soon all my basketball friends wants me to be on their team because they knew that I’m the best among them. And my fame spread to other basketball courts and being known without knowing them. At that time, I felt a NBA all star who was standing in front of the spotlight. The feeling of being noticed, praised and cheered when I blocked a shot or performed a AND-1 stun felt so good that it became addictive.

After spending 2 years in National Service and coming into the society to work, I felt that there is something missing in my life. Yet I can’t seem to find that missing piece until I get in touch with basketball again. It was like finding the lost soul to my hollow body which makes me complete. 

That was when I realised that the bond which I shared with basketball was so strong that it has already became a part of me. Nothing in this world could ever replace the bond I had with my basketball. period.

Should Women learn to be independent?

Today I had a interesting conversation with my colleague. One of the topic was that her boyfriend asked her to learn to be independent and I was telling her: ” If you learnt to become independent, what do you need a boyfriend for?”

I believe that all women were independent in some ways. But at the end of the day, they still like to have a guy to give them a hug when they are cold, give them a shoulder to cry on when they are sad, and give them flowers and sweet words to make them feel important.

In today’s society where women demands equal social treatment as men, no matter how capable is women in terms of career or family, I believe that they need us just as much as we need them. Today, you can find women around you who choose to be single because majority of them in my opinion, were too independent that either their expectation of potential is too high or they seem so out of reach by other guys.

As for me, I prefer women who knows when to be independent and when to depends on me. That may sound difficult to some of you out there but it is actually common sense to girls who have experience in relationships. If you still have no clue of what I am saying, do yourself a favour and go read some books like Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

The Lion is awoken!

Got a lecture this afternoon over some stupid issue regarding lunch time and it force me, the sleeping lion to wake up and cause terror once again. Why only aim at me whereas I’m not the mastermind behind all these. Why lecture me in front of the reception desk where all my colleagues were passing by?

Because of this, you have awaken a sleeping lion. You now have the chance to see the “other side” of him. You will see a lion roar in front of you stupid face when you confront him. You will wish that you will appreciate him more than treating him like a dirt.

If its war you want, its war that you will get. I can assure you that when the lion goes hey wire, no one and I mean no one, can stop him. This lion has put up with your bullshit long enough. You don’t appreciate his comedy, you will definitely remember the horror and tragedy that he will give you.

The Frozen Prince

Someone asked me why did I put my nick as prince Adon on my friendster. The reason is simple, I’m a frozen prince, a prince whose heart has been encaged within a frozen chamber, waiting for the right girl to melt it away with her love. Let me tell you a love history of this frozen prince.

Since secondary school I’ve been rejected by countless girls because I’m fat and ugly. It was only till my poly days that my lady luck starts coming as I gotten slimmer and took care of my face. But luck it seems, is not without a sense of ironry. All the girls that I’ve dated broke up with me within a matter of weeks. Reason: Im too nice to them.

The Final blow came during my army days when my girl whom we both have feelings for each other, get to know another guy who is a playboy and ended up with him. I felt sad and angry. “Why did she left me over a jerk whom I know that he will only hurt her in the end?”

From that moment, I realised that girls doesn’t like nice guys, they prefer jerks who will hurt them in ways they never imagine and still wanna be with them. I’ve decided to become one of them. I’ve placed my heart within a block of ice so that no one can ever hurt me like they did in the past.

I’ve became emotionless, cold, shut down and hence I call myself the Frozen Prince. Waiting, waiting for someone to be able to melt the ice and warms my heart like it once was.

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Finally… The wait is over…

After so many days of waiting, my offer has finally arrived. Throughout the process I kept wondering if they will hire me, or they will stop the recruitment cause the economy is in downturn nowadays. Guess that what you think may not be the reality after all. Knowing the outcome felt like a burden being released from my shoulders, giving me a breathe of fresh air.

Right now, I’m feeling so excited like there is a rush of adrenaline through my veins. Just the thought that I’ll be able to work in such a MNC is like knowing that your wife is pregnant and your mind is filled with all sorts of thoughts: “What should I name the baby?, Should I start to buy the clothing?

And of course, I know that I can’t be too happy yet because I have to start preparing myself for the challenges that Im about to face. Everything is going to according to my plan so far, except for a few changes that I’ve made to be more congruent to my long term goals.